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    • 13 Jul 2024
    • 10:00 AM - 1:00 PM
    • First Presbyterian Church, 2407 Dana Street, Berkeley, CA 94704
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      Affairs: Moving on From the Crisis of Discovery

    Presented by:

    Sarah Ackerman, LMFT & Mena Zaminsky, PsyD, LMFT

    When: July 13, 2024

    Time: 10am to 1pm

    Where: The Calvin Room at First Presbyterian Church of Berkeley, 2407 Dana Street, Berkeley, CA 94704


    When couples arrive in our office, fresh on the heels of a betrayal discovery, no matter how seasoned we are, many of us can feel that we are caught up in the intensity of fear, shame, anger and pain that is bouncing off our walls. In this presentation, we will take you through the Attachment Injury terrain of working with betrayal in early and in later Stage One. We’ll describe what is meant by “Putting the Affair in the Cycle”, identify the common attachment fears that get triggered by a betrayal, and show you video that demonstrates the work of both holding couples and de-escalating the negative cycle that is particular to betrayal trauma. We’ll cover the tasks of later stage one, and show video of a couple moving on from the initial stages of discovery, into the stage of creating a shared narrative and mourning what has been lost. You will also have an opportunity to practice a short role play in dyads.


    1. Describe 2 common attachment fears for the injured partner and for the injuring partner, particular to an attachment injury.

    2. Apply the EFT Attachment Injury Repair Model (AIRM) in Stage One couples work.

    3.Delineate 3 elements of emotion present in the betrayal cycle.


    Sarah Ackerman, LMFT,

    Certified EFT Therapist and Supervisor

    Sarah Ackerman (LMFT 28883) has had a private practice in Berkeley

    for more than 30 years. Trained initially in relational psychodynamic

    psychotherapy at the Women's Therapy Center in El Cerrito and

    subsequently with the Institute of Contemporary Psychoanalysis of

    Northern California, she then shifted her focus to attachment based

    modalities, most notably Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy as well as Diana Fosha’s AEDP model for individuals. She has taught the course Beyond Core Skills along with Jamie Bachman, LCSW, for the last 6 years, supervises learners of EFT, and assisted in numerous Externships and Core Skills for many years. She has served on the board of the Northern California Community of EFT Therapists.

    Mena Zaminsky, PsyD, LMFT #41265

    Certified EFT Therapist

    Mena Zaminsky has been a practicing clinician for the past twenty-five years. She holds a Doctorate of Psychology in Marriage and Family Therapy and a Master’s Degree in Counseling Psychology and Expressive Arts Therapy. Mena brings a strong somatic focus and a specialty in both trauma and working with couples. She is a Certified Sensorimotor Psychotherapist and Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist and has extensive training in Hakomi, Psycho-Physical Therapy, Polyvagal Informed Treatment and EMDR, among other modalities.

    Mena has served NCCEFT as Program Chair, member of the Board of Directors, Interim Registration Coordinator and Continuing Education Coordinator.


    10:00 - 10:30:  Snacks and Socializing

    10:30 - 10:50: Announcements

    10:50 - 11:50:  Program 

    11:50 - 12:00: Break  (not included in CE's)

    12:00-1:00: Program resumes

    1:00: Program adjourns


    This training is appropriate for mental health practitioners who work with couples using Emotionally Focused Therapy.  Level is introductory to intermediate.


    This training is free to members, who will receive 2 Continuing Education (CE) credit at no charge.  This training is available to non-members for $10, and CE credit is available for an additional $25.  Prepayment is made online through the website at the time of registration.  


    This course meets the qualifications for 2 hours of continuing education credit for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs, and/or LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences;

    Psychologists: NCCEFT is approved by the California Psychological Association to provide continuing professional education for psychologists. NCCEFT maintains responsibility for this program and its content.

    NCCEFT is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and/or LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences. NCCEFT maintains responsibility for this program/course and its content. Provider # 93337


    Those who attend this workshop in full, and complete the course evaluation will receive a certificate of completion via email within one week following the workshop. Please note that credit will only be granted to those who attend the entire workshop.  Those arriving more than 15 minutes after the start time or leaving before the workshop is completed will not receive CE credit.


    NCCEFT meets all applicable local, state and federal standards, including the Americans with Disabilities Act of 1990 (ADA), 42, U.S.C. 12101-12213 (2008)). We hold events only at professional venues that comply with the Americans with Disabilities Act of 1990 (ADA), 42, U.S.C. 12101-12213 (2008)

    ADA NEEDS: We will be happy to accommodate your ADA needs; please contact us at NCCEFTinfo@gmail.com  at least two weeks prior to the seminar date.


    For those with limited mobility, the underground church parking garage has disabled person parking spaces and an elevator up to the main floor. The entrance to the underground church parking garage is located on the south side of Channing Way between Telegraph Ave and Dana St. The cost is $1 per 20 minutes with a $10 maximum. A second option is across the street from the church on the north side of Channing Way at the Telegraph-Channing Garage. The cost is free for the first hour and $2 per hour after that.


    The Northern California Community for Emotionally Focused Therapy (NCCEFT) is fully committed to conducting all activities in strict conformance with the American Psychological Association's Ethical Principles of Psychologists. NCCEFT will comply with all legal and ethical responsibilities to be non-discriminatory in promotional activities, program content and in the treatment of program participants.  The monitoring and assessment of compliance with these standards will be the responsibility of the CPA PAS CE Program Director in consultation with the Board of Directors (Steering Committee).

    While NCCEFT works to assure fair treatment for all participants and attempts to anticipate problems, there will be occasional issues which will require intervention and/or action on the part of NCCEFT. This procedural description serves as a guideline for handling such complaints.

    When a participant, either orally or in written format, files a grievance and expects action on the complaint, the following actions will be taken:

    1. If the complaint concerns a speaker, the content presented by the speaker, or the style of presentation, the individual filing the complaint will be asked to put his/her comments in written format. The CE Program Director will then pass on the comments to the speaker, assuring the confidentiality of the aggrieved individual.

    2. If the complaint concerns a workshop offering, its content, level of presentation, or the facilities in which the workshop was offered, the CE Program Director will mediate and will be the final arbitrator. If the participant requests action during a workshop or conference, the CE Program Director or his/her representative will:

    a. attempt to rectify the situation, and/or

    b. provide a credit for a subsequent presentation, in the event of a program having an attendance fee or

    c. provide a partial or full refund of the registration fee, in the event of a program having an attendance fee.

    Actions 2b and 2c will require a written note, documenting the grievance, for record keeping purposes. The note need not be signed by the aggrieved individual.

    3. If the grievance concerns the business practices of the NCCEFT CE program in a specific regard, the CE Program Director or Administrator will attempt to arbitrate.


    In the event that a program presentation has an attendance fee, CANCELLATIONS should be made 48 hours prior to the event.

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21 Oct 2023 NCCEFT Quarterly October 21, 2023 CULTURAL HUMILITY & EFT Tango Moves
03 Jun 2023 In Person Summer Quarterly, June 3rd 2023
13 May 2023 NCCEFT 2023 Fundraiser May 13 & 14 IN PERSON AND ONLINE
29 Oct 2022 IN PERSON Quarterly Kickoff October 29th
08 Apr 2022 NCCEFT 2022 Fundraiser April 8th and 9th
29 Jan 2022 NCCEFT Quarterly ON-LINE Meeting: January 29th
25 Sep 2021 Use of the Self, EFT, and Conversations about Culture and Race
26 Jun 2021 NCCEFT Quarterly ON-LINE Meeting
16 Apr 2021 NCCEFT 2021 Fundraiser April 16 - 17, 2021
06 Mar 2021 NCCEFT Quarterly Meeting: Embodying EFT: Enhancing the Somatic Dimension
30 Jan 2021 NCCEFT Quarterly ON-LINE Training: EFiT with Sam Jinich, PhD
18 Dec 2020 Very Attached ZOOM Holiday Party
10 Oct 2020 NCCEFT Day-long Training with Rebecca Jorgensen, PhD
26 Sep 2020 NCCEFT Quarterly Fall Kick-Off Event
23 May 2020 Doing EFT Online: A Conversation with Rebecca and Sam
06 Mar 2020 NCCEFT 2020 Fundraiser--High Conflict Couples with George Faller
01 Feb 2020 NCCEFT Quarterly Meeting: Affect Theory and EFT
07 Dec 2019 Very Attached Holiday Party
02 Nov 2019 NCCEFT Daylong: Developing Confidence in Addressing Sexual Issues Within Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
07 Sep 2019 NCCEFT Fall Kick-Off--Attachment Therapist as Fellow Traveler: Attunement in EFT
22 Jun 2019 Affect Theory and EFT: Welcoming Secondary Emotions & Reactive Behaviors
27 Apr 2019 Integrating EFT and Sex Therapy Through Case Studies
22 Mar 2019 NCCEFT Fundraiser--Emotionally Focused Family Therapy: Healing Relationships and Promoting Resilience
02 Feb 2019 Robert Solley, PhD; EFT on a Spectrum
01 Dec 2018 Very Attached Holiday Party
27 Oct 2018 EFT with High Conflict Couples
08 Sep 2018 Back to EFT Basics with Sam Jinich, Ph.D.
16 Jun 2018 Leading, Being Led, Walking Beside: Collaboration with the Couple in EFT
14 Apr 2018 Shoring up the Emotional Bonds from the Inside Out Internal Family Systems (IFS) and EFT - Partners in Intimacy
02 Feb 2018 NCCEFT Fundraiser: Sex as a Safe Adventure: Connecting Sexually and Emotionally Through EFT
06 Jan 2018 EFT for New Parents: Navigating the Attachment Minefield
02 Dec 2017 NCCEFT Very Attached Holiday Party
23 Sep 2017 STEP 3: The Challenges of Accessing Emotions When the Withdrawer and the Pursuer are Highly Cognitive
17 Jun 2017 NCCEFT Quarterly Meeting: Can You See Me? Providing Emotionally Focused Therapy to Middle Eastern and Immigrant Couples.
07 Apr 2017 NCCEFT Annual Fundraiser
04 Mar 2017 NCCEFT Quarterly Meeting: The Dreaded "S" Word
14 Jan 2017 NCCEFT Quarterly Meeting: Unlocking the Mystery of Pursuer Softening
10 Dec 2016 NCCEFT Very Attached Holiday Party
01 Oct 2016 Step 2 of EFT: Tracking the Reactive Negative Cycle
18 Jun 2016 Making Peace with Pursuit
07 May 2016 EFT and Grief
08 Apr 2016 How Sharing Emotions Calms the Traumatized Brain and Heart: The Application of EFT with Trauma Couples
23 Jan 2016 Roadmap to EFT Certification
05 Dec 2015 NCCEFT Very Attached Holiday Party
26 Sep 2015 Stage 1: Attuning to the Relational Bond with EFT Interventions
27 Jun 2015 Working with Men in the EFT Model
24 Apr 2015 Addressing Addictions while Fostering Secure Attachments with EFT
28 Mar 2015 EFT with Same-Sex Couples: An Open Discussion
31 Jan 2015 The Joy of Sex: A Therapists’ Guide to Sex and Self of Therapist in EFT
06 Dec 2014 NCCEFT Very Attached Holiday Party
20 Sep 2014 Stuck Places in EFT
28 Jun 2014 Withdraw-Withdraw Couples: Moving into Increased Engagement
30 May 2014 Journey into Your Self as a Therapist: Self-Exploration, Discovery and Transformation
29 Mar 2014 The EFT Tango Map

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