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NCCEFT 2020 Fundraiser--High Conflict Couples with George Faller

  • 06 Mar 2020
  • 10:00 AM
  • 07 Mar 2020
  • 5:30 PM
  • Preservation Park, 1233 Preservation Park Way, Oakland, CA 94612
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NCCEFT 2020 Fundraiser

Going into the Fire

Working with High Conflict Couples

Presented by:

George Faller, MS, LMFT, EFT Trainer



DAY ONE: Do escalated couples make you want to quit being a therapist? Join us as we explore those moments of greatest difficulty for couples, from still-face to high reactivity to despair and rage. Learn how to keep your focus and go deeper in the face of reactivity. We’ll explore, demonstrate, practice and integrate EFT in an interactive, experiential way.

Through a combination of lecture, videotape, and exercises, participants will learn to identify the basic stages and steps of Emotionally Focused Therapy and to help couples recognize and deescalate problematic cycles of interaction.

DAY TWO: Shut down withdrawers and hostile pursuers often bring out the worst in therapists.  Our attempts at getting withdrawers to reengage and pursuers to soften often only leads to either more silence or further criticism.  Learn skills to match the affect of partners and help them put words to their inner experience, shifting their focus from fixing their partner to their own vulnerability. 


This workshop will combine didactic instruction, experiential exercises, and case examples to demonstrate the practice of working with High Conflict Couples.  


Participants will:

 1.  Identify the key assumptions of attachment theory as it applies to adult relationships.

 2.  Identify the assumptions, stages, and steps of EFT, as well as key change events.

 3.  Articulate key interventions in EFT that help clients to reprocess key emotional                      responses and reduce reactivity.

 4.  Identify common therapeutic impasses in EFT and how to address them and implement          EFT interventions in clinical exercises and case examples.

 5.  Name the different structural elements/parts of the couple's cycle.

 6.  Discuss the process model of emotion as defined by Magda Arnold

 7.  Describe three underlying emotions that withdrawers feel.

 8.  Describe three underlying emotions that pursuers feel.

 9.  Define the EFT clinical skills associated with de-escalation

10. Describe the function of protective strategies that create negative cycles.

11. Identify the positive cycle of responsiveness to replace the escalated, negative cycle.


George Faller MS, LMFT, EFT Trainer

Prior to a career in the field of mental health, George Faller MS, LMFT spent 20 years as a NYC Firefighter and NYC Police Officer.  George received his M.S. in Marriage and Family Therapy from Iona College, where he graduated at the top of his class. He holds a B.A. in Political Science from Queens College. His experience as a FDNY Peer Counselor, particularly following the events of 9/11, sparked his passion to help those impacted by trauma.

He is a certified Trainer/Supervisor/Therapist in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and founder of the New York Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy where he serves as President.  He is a Supervisor with the American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy (AAMFT) and teaches classes at the Ackerman Institute for the Family in Manhattan.  He is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist currently practicing in Connecticut and New York.  George is the director of training at the Greenwich Center for Hope & Renewal in Connecticut and is on the Board of the Porter Cason Institute at Tulane University in New Orleans.

George brings a unique and varied experience to his practice.  Whether he is providing marriage therapy to Wall Street executives, leading a conference for the United States Military or equipping therapists from around the globe, his ability to inspire is far-reaching.  George is also committed to bringing EFT to underprivileged populations and pushing the leading edge of effective therapy.

George is the coauthor of the books “True Connection”, “Sacred Stress” and “Emotionally Focused Family Therapy” and cohost of podcast “Foreplay Radio”.  For more information go to www.georgefaller.com 



 9:30 AM - Registration/Check In; Mingling with Refreshments
10:00 AM - Training begins
  1:30 PM - Lunch Break 
  2:30 PM - Training resumes
 5:30 PM - Training ends


9:00 AM - Registration/Check In; Mingling with Refreshments
 9:30 AM - Training resumes
 1:30 PM - Lunch Break
 2:30 PM - Training resumes
 5:30 PM - Training ends

This training is appropriate for mental health practitioners who work with couples and who want to deepen EFT skills in their work with high conflict couples.

This presentation is appropriate for mental health professionals who work with couples using Emotionally Focused Therapy.  Level is intermediate.

COST (Lunch included):

$380 Early Registration (before midnight Jan. 31, 2020)

$425 Regular Fee (after January 31, 2020) 

$305 Pre-licensed Therapist (interns and grad student trainees)

Continuing Education (CE) credit is available for an additional $25 on any ticket type. 

Parking information will be provided to registrants in reminder emails.

PLEASE NOTE: Payment must be made in advance, as payment cannot be accepted on site.

Cancellations are subject to a $50.00 processing fee and must be received 14 days prior to the event to be eligible for a refund. For cancellations, please contact ncceft.programs@gmail.com.

This course meets the qualifications for 13 hours of continuing education credit for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs, and/or LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences;

Psychologists:  The Northern California Community for Emotionally Focused Therapy (NCCEFT) is approved by the CPA OPD to sponsor continuing professional education for psychologists in California. NCCEFT maintains responsibility for this program and its content. (Provider # NOR055)

NCCEFT is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and/or LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences.  NCCEFT maintains responsibility for this program/course and its content. Provider # 93337

Those who attend this workshop in full, complete the course evaluation and sign in/out will receive CE credits. A certificate of completion will be provided at the end of the workshop. Please note that credit will only be granted to those who attend the entire workshop.  Those arriving more than 15 minutes after the start time or leaving before the workshop is completed will not receive CE credit.


NCCEFT meets all applicable local, state and federal standards, including the Americans with Disabilities Act of 1990 (ADA), 42, U.S.C. 12101-12213 (2008)). We hold events only at professional venues that comply with the Americans with Disabilities Act of 1990 (ADA), 42, U.S.C. 12101-12213 (2008)

ADA NEEDS: We will be happy to accommodate your ADA needs; please contact us at NCCEFT.programs@gmail.com  at least two weeks prior to the seminar date.


The Northern California Community for Emotionally Focused Therapy (NCCEFT) is fully committed to conducting all activities in strict conformance with the American Psychological Association's Ethical Principles of Psychologists. NCCEFT will comply with all legal and ethical responsibilities to be non-discriminatory in promotional activities, program content and in the treatment of program participants.  The monitoring and assessment of compliance with these standards will be the responsibility of the CPA PAS CE Program Director in consultation with the Board of Directors (Steering Committee).

While NCCEFT works to assure fair treatment for all participants and attempts to anticipate problems, there will be occasional issues which will require intervention and/or action on the part of NCCEFT. This procedural description serves as a guideline for handling such complaints.

When a participant, either orally or in written format, files a grievance and expects action on the complaint, the following actions will be taken:

1. If the complaint concerns a speaker, the content presented by the speaker, or the style of presentation, the individual filing the complaint will be asked to put his/her comments in written format. The CE Program Director will then pass on the comments to the speaker, assuring the confidentiality of the aggrieved individual.

2. If the complaint concerns a workshop offering, its content, level of presentation, or the facilities in which the workshop was offered, the CE Program Director will mediate and will be the final arbitrator. If the participant requests action during a workshop or conference, the CE Program Director or his/her representative will:

a. attempt to rectify the situation, and/or

b. provide a credit for a subsequent presentation, in the event of a program having an attendance fee or

c. provide a partial or full refund of the registration fee, in the event of a program having an attendance fee.

Actions 2b and 2c will require a written note, documenting the grievance, for record keeping purposes. The note need not be signed by the aggrieved individual.

3. If the grievance concerns the business practices of the NCCEFT CE program in a specific regard, the CE Program Director or Administrator will attempt to arbitrate.


In the event that a program presentation has an attendance fee, CANCELLATIONS are subject to a $50.00 processing fee and must be received 14 days prior to be eligible for a refund.

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