NCCEFT Quarterly Meeting: Unlocking the Mystery of Pursuer Softening

  • 14 Jan 2017
  • 10:00 AM - 1:00 PM
  • First Presbyterian Church of Berkeley 2407 Dana Street Berkeley, CA 94704
  • 5


(depends on selected options)

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Unlocking the Mystery of Pursuer Softening

Presented by: 

Jennifer Olden, LMFT, Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist and Supervisor

We can all appreciate the difficulty of working with a pursuer who is having difficulty softening, despite their best intentions.These folks can pose a challenge for even the most seasoned clinicians, especially in Stage Two.

During this interactive event we will watch video clips of EFT trainers working with couples in Stage Two, with commentary provided by Jennifer Olden MFT. We will watch seasoned clinicians deepen emotions, transform blocks into openings, catch bullets seamlessly, and then facilitate enactments that create deep content and in-the-moment change.

Time will allow for us to work with partners with the goal to make the process of pursuer softening in Stage Two clean, measurable, and doable.

Having a didactic and experiential presentation will allow us to walk away with a fresh approach to integrate the moves necessary for a successful pursuer reach.

Participants will:
1) Learn how to stay with the pursuer's process, be directive as necessary, and shore up the withdrawer so he/she can reach back with support.

2) Be able to describe pursuer's step 7, including the Possible Blamer Reach, Processing Fears of Reaching, View of self and View of other and the Actual Reach. 

3) Practice through role plays with other participants how to move out of content into attachment longings, frame complaints as reaches for closeness and connection, and help the pursuer send a clear and vulnerable attachment message.  


Jennifer Olden, MFT is an ICEEFT Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist and an EFT Supervisor with a private practice in Sacramento, California.  She specializes in couples and her interests focus on trauma recovery through strengthening attachments.  She provides EFT supervision and facilitates several EFT training groups, specifically the EFT lab and an EFT certification class. She is currently teaching EFT online through The EFT Lab.   She earned her Bachelor degree in English from California State University Chico and her Master in Marriage and Family Therapy at California State University Sacramento.


 10:00 AM - Networking and Professional Socialization                         (not included in CE credits)

  10:30 AM - NCCEFT Announcements (not included in CE                            credits)

 10:50 AM - Training begins

  11:50 AM - 10-minute break (not included in CE credits)

  12 NOON - Training reconvenes

   1:00 PM - Training adjourns

This training is appropriate for mental health practitioners who work with couples using Emotionally Focused Therapy.

Level is introductory to intermediate.

This training is free to members, who will receive Continuing Education (CE) credit at no charge.  This training is available to non-members for $10, and CE credit is available for an additional $25.  Payment may be made by cash or check made out to NCCEFT.  As payment is collected at the door, no refunds or cancellations are available.

This course meets the qualifications for 2 hours of continuing education credit for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs, and/or LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences;

Psychologists:  The Northern California Community for Emotionally Focused Therapy (NCCEFT) is approved by the CPA OPD to sponsor continuing professional education for psychologists in California. NCCEFT maintains responsibility for this program and its content. (Provider # NOR055)

NCCEFT is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and/or LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences.  NCCEFT maintains responsibility for this program/course and its content. Provider # 93337

Those who attend this workshop in full, complete the course evaluation and sign in/out will receive CE credits. A certificate of completion will be provided at the end of the workshop. Please note that credit will only be granted to those who attend the entire workshop.  Those arriving more than 15 minutes after the start time or leaving before the workshop is completed will not receive CE credit.


NCCEFT meets all applicable local, state and federal standards, including the Americans with Disabilities Act of 1990 (ADA), 42, U.S.C. 12101-12213 (2008)). We hold events only at professional venues that comply with the Americans with Disabilities Act of 1990 (ADA), 42, U.S.C. 12101-12213 (2008)

ADA NEEDS: We will be happy to accommodate your ADA needs; please contact us at  at least two weeks prior to the seminar date.


The Northern California Community for Emotionally Focused Therapy (NCCEFT) is fully committed to conducting all activities in strict conformance with the American Psychological Association's Ethical Principles of Psychologists. NCCEFT will comply with all legal and ethical responsibilities to be non-discriminatory in promotional activities, program content and in the treatment of program participants.  The monitoring and assessment of compliance with these standards will be the responsibility of the CPA PAS CE Program Director in consultation with the Board of Directors (Steering Committee).

While NCCEFT works to assure fair treatment for all participants and attempts to anticipate problems, there will be occasional issues which will require intervention and/or action on the part of NCCEFT. This procedural description serves as a guideline for handling such complaints.

When a participant, either orally or in written format, files a grievance and expects action on the complaint, the following actions will be taken:

1. If the complaint concerns a speaker, the content presented by the speaker, or the style of presentation, the individual filing the complaint will be asked to put his/her comments in written format. The CE Program Director will then pass on the comments to the speaker, assuring the confidentiality of the aggrieved individual.

2. If the complaint concerns a workshop offering, its content, level of presentation, or the facilities in which the workshop was offered, the CE Program Director will mediate and will be the final arbitrator. If the participant requests action during a workshop or conference, the CE Program Director or his/her representative will:

a. attempt to rectify the situation, and/or

b. provide a credit for a subsequent presentation, in the event of a program having an attendance fee or

c. provide a partial or full refund of the registration fee, in the event of a program having an attendance fee.

Actions 2b and 2c will require a written note, documenting the grievance, for record keeping purposes. The note need not be signed by the aggrieved individual.

3. If the grievance concerns the business practices of the NCCEFT CE program in a specific regard, the CE Program Director or Administrator will attempt to arbitrate.


In the event that a program presentation has an attendance fee, CANCELLATIONS are subject to a $50.00 processing fee and must be received 14 days prior to be eligible for a refund.

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