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Affairs: Moving on From the Crisis of Discovery

  • 13 Jul 2024
  • 10:00 AM - 1:00 PM
  • First Presbyterian Church, 2407 Dana Street, Berkeley, CA 94704
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  Affairs: Moving on From the Crisis of Discovery

Presented by:

Sarah Ackerman, LMFT & Mena Zaminsky, PsyD, LMFT

When: July 13, 2024

Time: 10am to 1pm

Where: The Calvin Room at First Presbyterian Church of Berkeley, 2407 Dana Street, Berkeley, CA 94704


When couples arrive in our office, fresh on the heels of a betrayal discovery, no matter how seasoned we are, many of us can feel that we are caught up in the intensity of fear, shame, anger and pain that is bouncing off our walls. In this presentation, we will take you through the Attachment Injury terrain of working with betrayal in early and in later Stage One. We’ll describe what is meant by “Putting the Affair in the Cycle”, identify the common attachment fears that get triggered by a betrayal, and show you video that demonstrates the work of both holding couples and de-escalating the negative cycle that is particular to betrayal trauma. We’ll cover the tasks of later stage one, and show video of a couple moving on from the initial stages of discovery, into the stage of creating a shared narrative and mourning what has been lost. You will also have an opportunity to practice a short role play in dyads.


1. Describe 2 common attachment fears for the injured partner and for the injuring partner, particular to an attachment injury.

2. Apply the EFT Attachment Injury Repair Model (AIRM) in Stage One couples work.

3.Delineate 3 elements of emotion present in the betrayal cycle.


Sarah Ackerman, LMFT,

Certified EFT Therapist and Supervisor

Sarah Ackerman (LMFT 28883) has had a private practice in Berkeley

for more than 30 years. Trained initially in relational psychodynamic

psychotherapy at the Women's Therapy Center in El Cerrito and

subsequently with the Institute of Contemporary Psychoanalysis of

Northern California, she then shifted her focus to attachment based

modalities, most notably Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy as well as Diana Fosha’s AEDP model for individuals. She has taught the course Beyond Core Skills along with Jamie Bachman, LCSW, for the last 6 years, supervises learners of EFT, and assisted in numerous Externships and Core Skills for many years. She has served on the board of the Northern California Community of EFT Therapists.

Mena Zaminsky, PsyD, LMFT #41265

Certified EFT Therapist

Mena Zaminsky has been a practicing clinician for the past twenty-five years. She holds a Doctorate of Psychology in Marriage and Family Therapy and a Master’s Degree in Counseling Psychology and Expressive Arts Therapy. Mena brings a strong somatic focus and a specialty in both trauma and working with couples. She is a Certified Sensorimotor Psychotherapist and Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist and has extensive training in Hakomi, Psycho-Physical Therapy, Polyvagal Informed Treatment and EMDR, among other modalities.

Mena has served NCCEFT as Program Chair, member of the Board of Directors, Interim Registration Coordinator and Continuing Education Coordinator.


10:00 - 10:30:  Snacks and Socializing

10:30 - 10:50: Announcements

10:50 - 11:50:  Program 

11:50 - 12:00: Break  (not included in CE's)

12:00-1:00: Program resumes

1:00: Program adjourns


This training is appropriate for mental health practitioners who work with couples using Emotionally Focused Therapy.  Level is introductory to intermediate.


This training is free to members, who will receive 2 Continuing Education (CE) credit at no charge.  This training is available to non-members for $10, and CE credit is available for an additional $25.  Prepayment is made online through the website at the time of registration.  


This course meets the qualifications for 2 hours of continuing education credit for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs, and/or LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences;

Psychologists: NCCEFT is approved by the California Psychological Association to provide continuing professional education for psychologists. NCCEFT maintains responsibility for this program and its content.

NCCEFT is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and/or LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences. NCCEFT maintains responsibility for this program/course and its content. Provider # 93337


Those who attend this workshop in full, and complete the course evaluation will receive a certificate of completion via email within one week following the workshop. Please note that credit will only be granted to those who attend the entire workshop.  Those arriving more than 15 minutes after the start time or leaving before the workshop is completed will not receive CE credit.


NCCEFT meets all applicable local, state and federal standards, including the Americans with Disabilities Act of 1990 (ADA), 42, U.S.C. 12101-12213 (2008)). We hold events only at professional venues that comply with the Americans with Disabilities Act of 1990 (ADA), 42, U.S.C. 12101-12213 (2008)

ADA NEEDS: We will be happy to accommodate your ADA needs; please contact us at NCCEFTinfo@gmail.com  at least two weeks prior to the seminar date.


For those with limited mobility, the underground church parking garage has disabled person parking spaces and an elevator up to the main floor. The entrance to the underground church parking garage is located on the south side of Channing Way between Telegraph Ave and Dana St. The cost is $1 per 20 minutes with a $10 maximum. A second option is across the street from the church on the north side of Channing Way at the Telegraph-Channing Garage. The cost is free for the first hour and $2 per hour after that.


The Northern California Community for Emotionally Focused Therapy (NCCEFT) is fully committed to conducting all activities in strict conformance with the American Psychological Association's Ethical Principles of Psychologists. NCCEFT will comply with all legal and ethical responsibilities to be non-discriminatory in promotional activities, program content and in the treatment of program participants.  The monitoring and assessment of compliance with these standards will be the responsibility of the CPA PAS CE Program Director in consultation with the Board of Directors (Steering Committee).

While NCCEFT works to assure fair treatment for all participants and attempts to anticipate problems, there will be occasional issues which will require intervention and/or action on the part of NCCEFT. This procedural description serves as a guideline for handling such complaints.

When a participant, either orally or in written format, files a grievance and expects action on the complaint, the following actions will be taken:

1. If the complaint concerns a speaker, the content presented by the speaker, or the style of presentation, the individual filing the complaint will be asked to put his/her comments in written format. The CE Program Director will then pass on the comments to the speaker, assuring the confidentiality of the aggrieved individual.

2. If the complaint concerns a workshop offering, its content, level of presentation, or the facilities in which the workshop was offered, the CE Program Director will mediate and will be the final arbitrator. If the participant requests action during a workshop or conference, the CE Program Director or his/her representative will:

a. attempt to rectify the situation, and/or

b. provide a credit for a subsequent presentation, in the event of a program having an attendance fee or

c. provide a partial or full refund of the registration fee, in the event of a program having an attendance fee.

Actions 2b and 2c will require a written note, documenting the grievance, for record keeping purposes. The note need not be signed by the aggrieved individual.

3. If the grievance concerns the business practices of the NCCEFT CE program in a specific regard, the CE Program Director or Administrator will attempt to arbitrate.


In the event that a program presentation has an attendance fee, CANCELLATIONS should be made 48 hours prior to the event.

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