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NCCEFT Quarterly ON-LINE Meeting: January 29th

  • 29 Jan 2022
  • 9:30 AM - 12:00 PM
  • Via Zoom


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NCCEFT January 29th Virtual Quarterly Meeting

Okay, Context Is A Thing, Now What?

Presented by:

Nalini Calamur, MA, LMFT

and Jay Seiff-Haron, Psy. D., Certified EFT Therapist and Supervisor-in-training

The Power of Naming the System’s Moves in EFT

Sue Johnson has said that EFT is what would have happened if Sal Minuchin and Carl Rogers sat down with John Bowlby for tea. We wondered how EFT might have developed from the start if Maya Angelou, James Baldwin, Lillian Comas-Diáz, Thich Nhat Hanh, Carolyn Attneave, Bell Hooks, and others also been invited to tea.

In EFT, we strive to meet our clients where they are by attuning with nuanced attention. And yet so much of the encouragement in our community to date about oppression has been “to just bring it up”, which is not very nuanced. Maybe we withdraw from doing so when we sense that this very lack of nuance might injure people; maybe we pursue with our model as currently taught when we miss important signposts to people’s experiences. 

Please join us for an exploration of how a few of our foundational EFT skills can help us better attune to more of our clients’ lives. We will explore how context sparks negative (or positive) cycles as partners navigate groups, systems, and the (often-traumatizing) power dynamics that are intrinsically part of human systems.

Participants will:

1. Describe how system levels beyond the individual and interpersonal enter into couple and relationship therapy.

2. Demonstrate how familiar EFT interventions can be harnessed for greater attunement and healing when clients face oppression, both in the world and in relationships.


Nalini Calamur, MA, LMFT Nalini is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has extensive experience working in Community Mental Health. She has worked with system-involved youth and multi-stressed Black and Latinx/e individuals, couples and families since 2014 at the Community Institute for Psychotherapy, the Carl B. Metoyer Center for Family Counseling, and the Multidimensional Family Therapy program at Lincoln. Ms. Calamur offers trainings to the Community Institute for Psychotherapy and the Carl B. Metoyer Center for Family Counseling such as De-escalation of Conflict in Family Work, and The Impact of Trauma on Attachment and Caregiver/Adolescent Relationship, and Countertransference in Treatment of Substance Use Disorders. She has a strong commitment to empowerment and healing in and for queer folk and communities of color and serves on the Diversity Committee for the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT) and the Diversity Equity and Inclusion Committee for the Northern California Community for Emotionally Focused Therapy (NCCEFT). Ms. Calamur sees clients in her private practice in Berkeley and Marin and primarily works with BIPOCQ and multicultural individuals and/or cross-cultural relationships and families who are struggling with high conflict, trauma, substance use, and/or suicide.  

Jay Seiff-Haron, Psy. D., Certified EFT Therapist and Supervisor-in-training Jay is a Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist and perennial EFT Supervisor-in-Training in private practice in San Francisco. He works with LGBT, BIPOCQ and interracial relationships; as an attachment-centered custody evaluator; and with preschooler-parent dyads after domestic violence, separation, loss or trauma. Dr. Seiff-Haron has taught graduate students at the Wright Institute and the Institute for Transpersonal Psychology. He has a strong social justice orientation and interest in cross-cultural dialogue, and believes passionately in better serving marginalized individuals, families and communities. Dr. Seiff-Haron is core faculty at Cross-Cultural Communications, an organization that offers week-long immersive, experiential trainings about antiracism and cross-cultural dialogue. He is presently serving on the Diversity Committee of the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT), and served as Events Committee Chair for the Northern California Community for Emotionally Focused Therapy (NCCEFT), 2009-2014.

10:00 AM - Networking and Professional Socialization (not included in CE credits)
10:30 AM - NCCEFT Announcements (not included in CE credits)

10:50 AM - Training begins
11:50 AM - 10-minute break (not included in CE credits)

12:00 noon - Training resumes
1:00 PM - Training ends

This training is appropriate for mental health practitioners who work with couples using Emotionally Focused Therapy.

This presentation is appropriate for mental health professionals who work with couples using Emotionally Focused Therapy.  Level is introductory to intermediate.

This training is free to members, who will receive Continuing Education (CE) credit at no charge.  This training is available to non-members for $10, and CE credit is available for an additional $25.  Prepayment is made online through the website at the time of registration.  Payments are not accepted at the door.

This course meets the qualifications for 2 hours of continuing education credit for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs, and/or LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences;

Psychologists: NCCEFT is approved by the California Psychological Association to provide continuing professional education for psychologists. NCCEFT maintains responsibility for this program and its content. 

NCCEFT is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and/or LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences.  NCCEFT maintains responsibility for this program/course and its content. Provider # 93337

Those who attend this workshop in full, complete the course evaluation and sign in/out will receive CE credits. A certificate of completion will be provided at the end of the workshop. Please note that credit will only be granted to those who attend the entire workshop.  Those arriving more than 15 minutes after the start time or leaving before the workshop is completed will not receive CE credit.


NCCEFT meets all applicable local, state and federal standards, including the Americans with Disabilities Act of 1990 (ADA), 42, U.S.C. 12101-12213 (2008)). We hold events only at professional venues that comply with the Americans with Disabilities Act of 1990 (ADA), 42, U.S.C. 12101-12213 (2008)

ADA NEEDS: We will be happy to accommodate your ADA needs; please contact us at NCCEFT.programs@gmail.com  at least two weeks prior to the seminar date.


The Northern California Community for Emotionally Focused Therapy (NCCEFT) is fully committed to conducting all activities in strict conformance with the American Psychological Association's Ethical Principles of Psychologists. NCCEFT will comply with all legal and ethical responsibilities to be non-discriminatory in promotional activities, program content and in the treatment of program participants.  The monitoring and assessment of compliance with these standards will be the responsibility of the CPA PAS CE Program Director in consultation with the Board of Directors (Steering Committee).

While NCCEFT works to assure fair treatment for all participants and attempts to anticipate problems, there will be occasional issues which will require intervention and/or action on the part of NCCEFT. This procedural description serves as a guideline for handling such complaints.

When a participant, either orally or in written format, files a grievance and expects action on the complaint, the following actions will be taken:

1. If the complaint concerns a speaker, the content presented by the speaker, or the style of presentation, the individual filing the complaint will be asked to put his/her comments in written format. The CE Program Director will then pass on the comments to the speaker, assuring the confidentiality of the aggrieved individual.

2. If the complaint concerns a workshop offering, its content, level of presentation, or the facilities in which the workshop was offered, the CE Program Director will mediate and will be the final arbitrator. If the participant requests action during a workshop or conference, the CE Program Director or his/her representative will:

a. attempt to rectify the situation, and/or

b. provide a credit for a subsequent presentation, in the event of a program having an attendance fee or

c. provide a partial or full refund of the registration fee, in the event of a program having an attendance fee.

Actions 2b and 2c will require a written note, documenting the grievance, for record keeping purposes. The note need not be signed by the aggrieved individual.

3. If the grievance concerns the business practices of the NCCEFT CE program in a specific regard, the CE Program Director or Administrator will attempt to arbitrate.


In the event that a program presentation has an attendance fee, CANCELLATIONS should be made 48 hours prior to the event.

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NCCEFT is a professional association of therapists practicing Emotionally Focused Therapy in Northern California. Serving communities of the San Francisco Bay Area and beyond, including San Francisco, Oakland, Berkeley, Fremont, San Jose, Sacramento, Santa Rosa, Stockton, Modesto, Fresno, and beyond; we have members throughout California and throughout the United States.
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